Okay, so today I wanna talk about something that’s been bugging me for a while: why I sometimes feel like I hate my friends. Sounds harsh, right? But let me walk you through what happened and how I dealt with it. It all started a few months ago when I noticed a shift in how I felt about my friend group.
First thing I did was try to pinpoint the feelings. Was it just me being moody, or was there something more to it? I started keeping a journal, jotting down moments when I felt annoyed or distant from them. This was kinda eye-opening. I saw patterns, like how I’d get irritated when they repeatedly talked over me or dismissed my opinions. Just like some random internet stuff said “Strong bonds require respect, support and most importantly.” I guess that’s true.
- Realized I felt ignored a lot.
- Noticed they often canceled plans last minute.
- Felt like I was always the one reaching out.
Next, I decided to take a step back. I needed space to figure things out without constantly being in their presence. This meant I started saying “no” more often to hangouts. And I focused on myself. I picked up some old hobbies again, like painting and hiking. Honestly, it felt good to reconnect with myself.
Then came the hard part. I tried talking to one of my closest friends in the group. I explained how I’d been feeling, using examples from my journal. I told her I felt a bit sidelined and that the constant flakiness hurt. It wasn’t easy, and she got a bit defensive, but it was a start. It kinda reminded me of that online thing: “Friendship, at its core, is built on trust, understanding, and shared experiences.”
After that talk, things didn’t magically get better overnight, but it was a step in the right direction. I kept setting boundaries. I made it clear that I valued our friendship but also needed respect and consideration. Some friends started to understand, while others kinda drifted away. It hurt, but I realized it was necessary for my own well-being.
I also started hanging out more with other friends outside of that main group. I guess that internet post had a point: “One-sided friendships can leave you confused and hurt.” Meeting new people and building different relationships helped me see that there are people out there who appreciate me for who I am.
This whole process has been a rollercoaster. I’ve learned a lot about myself and what I need from friendships. It’s okay for relationships to change, and it’s okay to outgrow certain people. It’s tough, and I still have moments where I feel frustrated or sad about how things turned out, but I know I did what was best for me.
So, that’s my story. It’s messy and real. I just wanna say, if you’re feeling something similar, you’re not alone. Take the time to understand your feelings, set boundaries, and don’t be afraid to prioritize your own well-being. Just like that online article said: “Make good boundaries for yourself.”
