Alright, folks, let’s talk about “no contact.” I had this relationship that was, well, a bit of a rollercoaster, to put it mildly. We were on-again, off-again, and it was just draining. So, I finally decided it was time to cut the cord. I was determined to stop the drama and get some peace.
Deciding to Go No Contact
First thing I did was sit down and really think about why this relationship wasn’t working. I listed all the times we fought, all the times we broke up and got back together. It was a mess. I realized I needed to do this for my own sanity.
Crafting the Last Message
Next, I drafted a message. I didn’t want to leave things on a bad note, but I also needed to be firm. I wrote something like, “Hey, I really care about you, but I need some time to figure things out. I think it’s best if we don’t talk for a while.” I re-read it a few times to make sure it didn’t sound too harsh, but still got the point across. I sent it and immediately felt a sense of relief mixed with a bit of anxiety.
Deleting the Number
After sending the message, I knew I had to take it a step further. I wrote down their number on a piece of paper, just in case, and then I deleted it from my phone. That was tough, but it felt necessary. I didn’t want to be tempted to reach out every time I felt lonely or nostalgic.
Staying Strong
- I started focusing on myself. I hit the gym more often, reconnected with old friends, and even picked up a new hobby.
- I also made a pact with a close friend to keep me accountable. We talked regularly, and they helped me stay on track.
- There were days when I really missed them, and I almost broke down a couple of times. But I reminded myself why I started this in the first place.
Reflecting and Moving On
It’s been a few months now, and honestly, it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I’ve learned so much about myself and what I really want in a relationship. I feel more in control of my life, and I’m not constantly on edge waiting for the next fight or breakup.
Going no contact isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. If you’re in a toxic relationship, it might be the reset button you need. You deserve peace and happiness, and sometimes that means walking away from the people who bring you down.
