Oh, Lord, let me tell ya, there’s somethin’ about those friends of my boyfriend that just rubs me the wrong way. I mean, I try to be nice, I really do, but it’s hard, you know? It ain’t that I don’t like them as people – well, maybe I don’t, but I can’t help it! Every time I’m around ‘em, I just feel this knot in my stomach. I ain’t one for drama, but these folks sure do bring it.
Now, my boyfriend, he’s a good one, a real gem. I love him more than I ever thought I’d love someone, and I’d do just about anything for him. But his friends? That’s another story. You ever meet folks who just seem to think they can say anything, do anything, and get away with it? That’s them. They got this way of laughin’ loud and bein’ so full of themselves that I swear it gives me a headache.
They ain’t bad people, I suppose. But there’s somethin’ about the way they talk about stuff, like they ain’t got a care in the world. They act like they got the world figured out, and here I am, just tryin’ to keep my head above water, dealin’ with life and all its mess. They talk ’bout things like it’s all easy, like they don’t have real problems like the rest of us. And I’m sittin’ there thinkin’, “Why do I gotta be around this?”
I know, I know, I’m supposed to be nice to ‘em. I should try harder, be polite, and maybe, just maybe, find somethin’ to like about them. But it ain’t so easy, I tell ya. Every time they start up one of their loud conversations, I just wanna walk away. It’s like they’re tryin’ too hard to impress everyone, includin’ my man. And that just don’t sit right with me. I ain’t one to compete for attention, especially not with folks who don’t even know how to talk to a woman like me!
It ain’t like I don’t try. I really do! I’ve tried to warm up to them, make a little conversation here and there. But when they start talkin’ about their wild nights out, their fancy cars, or their big plans for the future, I feel so out of place. It’s like we ain’t from the same world at all. And I’m sittin’ there, tryin’ to find somethin’ to talk about, but it all feels so fake. I can’t put on a show like they do. I’m just me, and that’s all I can be.
Now, I love my boyfriend with all my heart. I do. But here’s the thing – just because I love him, don’t mean I gotta love every person he hangs out with. Ain’t no rule that says I gotta like all his friends. In fact, I’m pretty sure I’m allowed to not like them, if that’s how I feel. What’s important is that I don’t make a big fuss about it. He’s gotta be able to spend time with his friends, and I ain’t gonna stand in the way of that. But, Lord, it sure does make it hard when they come around.
Every time I see them, I just get that same feeling in my gut, like somethin’ ain’t right. It’s not even that they’re bad people – it’s just that they don’t make me feel comfortable. And when I don’t feel comfortable, I ain’t happy. I try to put on a smile, try to fit in, but deep down, I just want to go home and hide under a blanket. I can’t be around folks who just rub me the wrong way, even if they are his friends.
So, what do I do? Well, for one, I don’t make a big deal outta it. I keep my thoughts to myself, for the most part. I mean, it’s not his fault he’s got friends I can’t stand. He’s been friends with them for years, and I’m sure they mean something to him. So, I ain’t gonna try to come between them. But I sure do wish they’d just stay away from me, you know? I’m fine with him hanging out with them, but I don’t need to be involved. I just don’t want to deal with them if I don’t have to.
Sometimes, I wonder if I’m the problem. Maybe I just don’t understand their way of doin’ things. But I reckon, I ain’t gonna force myself to like them if I don’t. There’s no rule saysin’ I have to. I’m just here to love my man and live my life the best way I know how. And if his friends don’t fit into that, well, that’s just how it is.
At the end of the day, I’m just gonna be me. I ain’t gonna try to be someone I’m not just to fit in with people I don’t like. I’ll be polite when I need to be, but I ain’t gonna pretend to like them. And I’m sure my boyfriend gets it. He knows I love him. And that’s what matters most.
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