Alright, so, I’ve been hitting the dating scene for a while now, and man, it’s been a rollercoaster. I started thinking, “What am I doing wrong?” So I decided to jot down everything and see if I could spot a pattern. Here’s how it went down.
First steps into the dating pool
First off, I jumped onto a few dating apps. You know, the usual suspects. Created a profile, picked out some decent pictures where I don’t look like a complete mess, and wrote a bio that I thought was pretty witty. I started swiping, matched with a few people, and struck up some conversations.
The initial conversations
- Some chats fizzled out faster than a cheap firework. You know, the usual “hey,” “what’s up,” and then… nothing. It’s like talking to a wall.
- A few conversations actually went somewhere. We’d chat about our hobbies, what we do for fun, the usual getting-to-know-you stuff. I even managed to set up a few dates this way.
Going on dates
This is where it gets interesting. I met up with a few different people. Some dates were okay, some were… well, let’s just say they weren’t a match made in heaven.
- One date, we met for coffee, and it was just awkward silences and forced small talk. We walked out, and there were not any sparks.
- Another time, I went to dinner with someone, and we ended up just complaining about our exes the whole time. Like, who does that?
- There were a couple of dates where I thought things went pretty well. Good conversation, some laughs, maybe a little bit of chemistry. But then, nothing. No second date, no texts, just… ghosted.
Analyzing my actions
After a string of these, I started to wonder, “Am I the problem?” I looked back at my messages, replayed the dates in my head, and tried to figure out where I was going wrong. I mean, I thought I was being myself, being genuine, but maybe I was giving off the wrong vibes or something. Also, there is one rule I heard from the internet. That is the rule of 3s. Give it three dates, three weeks and three months to see how things go with someone before getting overly attached and planning a future together.
Making some changes
So, I decided to switch things up a bit. I tweaked my profile, tried to be a bit more engaging in my messages, and even practiced my conversation skills with friends. On dates, I made a conscious effort to be more present, ask more questions, and really listen to what the other person was saying. But still, I paid attention to the rule of 3s.
The current situation
It’s been a mixed bag since then. I’ve had some better dates, some worse ones, and a few that were just… meh. I’m still not sure what I’m doing wrong, exactly. Maybe I’m overthinking it. Maybe I just haven’t met the right person yet. But I guess I will keep the rule of 3s in my mind.
Keeping on
But you know what? I’m not giving up. Dating is tough, and it’s easy to get discouraged. But I figure, everyone’s got their own baggage and their own quirks. It’s just a matter of finding someone who’s willing to deal with yours, and who you’re willing to deal with in return. So, I’ll keep putting myself out there, keep trying, and hopefully, one day, I’ll figure out this whole dating thing. Or maybe I won’t, and I’ll just end up with a bunch of cats. Either way, it’s an adventure, right?
So, that’s my dating saga so far. It’s messy, it’s confusing, but it’s real. And who knows, maybe sharing this will help someone else out there who’s feeling the same way. Or maybe it’ll just be a good laugh. Either way, I’m here for it.
