Okay, so, about this whole “opposite of vanilla sex” thing. I’ve been hearing a lot about it lately, and I thought, why not give it a shot? I mean, my partner and I have a pretty good thing going, but you know, sometimes you just want to shake things up a bit.
So, I did a bit of digging around, just to get an idea of what we’re talking about. Apparently, “vanilla” is like the default setting for sex. You know, the usual, the comfortable, the kind of stuff you’d expect. Missionary, maybe some cuddling, a little bit of kissing. Nothing wrong with it, but definitely not going to blow your mind.
Now, the opposite of that is basically anything that’s not, well, vanilla. We’re talking about experimenting, trying new things, getting a little wild. So, I started off small. I talked to my partner, and we agreed to just try something a little different. Maybe some new positions, a bit of role-playing, just to see how it felt.
- We tried this thing where I sat on the edge of the bed, and they, well, you get the idea. It was different, a little awkward at first, but kind of fun.
- Then we tried a bit of role-playing. I pretended to be a, uh, let’s just say a “damsel in distress,” and they were the “hero.” It was silly, but it got us laughing, and that kind of broke the ice.
After a few experiments, things started to get a little more adventurous. We started exploring things like, well, let’s just say things got a little rougher. Not in a bad way, just, you know, more intense. It was definitely a change of pace, and I have to say, it was pretty exciting.
Getting bolder, getting wilder
Emboldened by these small successes, we began to push the boundaries even further. We decided to incorporate some new toys into our repertoire. Nothing too crazy, just a few things to enhance the experience. I remember one time, we tried using a blindfold. It was surprisingly exhilarating to not be able to see what was coming next. It heightened my other senses, making each touch and sensation feel more intense.
Then, there was the time we decided to experiment with different locations. Let’s just say the kitchen counter became a lot more interesting than it used to be. The thrill of potentially getting caught added an extra layer of excitement to the whole experience.
Realizations and revelations
Through all this, I learned a lot about myself and my partner. I discovered that I enjoyed being a bit more submissive than I initially thought. Letting go of control and allowing my partner to take the lead was a surprisingly liberating experience. It felt good to trust them completely and to explore my own desires in a safe and consensual way.
We also discovered that communication is key. We talked about what we liked, what we didn’t, and what we wanted to try next. It wasn’t always easy, but those conversations brought us closer together and helped us create a sex life that was truly fulfilling for both of us.
It’s been a wild ride, and I’m not going to lie, there were times when things got a little weird. But you know what? It’s been worth it. We’ve learned a lot about each other, and about what we like. And our sex life? Let’s just say it’s definitely not vanilla anymore.
So, if you’re thinking about spicing things up, I say go for it. Just remember to talk to your partner, take it slow, and don’t be afraid to experiment. You might be surprised at what you discover.
