My Boyfriend Wont Eat Me Out: Is It Over?

Well, bless your heart, you’re havin’ a bit of a pickle, ain’t ya? Your fella, he won’t… how do you young’uns say it… “eat you out”? Land sakes, times have changed. Back in my day, we didn’t even talk about such things! But here we are, so let’s get down to brass tacks.

First off, is this a new thing or has it always been this way? If it’s new, somethin’ might be up. Maybe he’s stressed? Men, they get all worked up about things and then things don’t work right, if you catch my drift. Like a tractor that needs a tune-up, ya know? He might be worried about work, money, or who knows what else. Men are strange creatures, they are.

Or maybe, just maybe, he ain’t feelin’ the connection no more. I ain’t sayin’ he’s cheatin’ or nothin’, but sometimes folks just drift apart a little. Like two boats on a big lake, they start out together but the wind and waves can push ‘em in different directions. You gotta figure out if that’s what’s happenin’.

Now, if it’s always been this way, well, that’s a different kettle of fish. Some folks just don’t like certain things. Maybe he had a bad experience, maybe he just don’t like the taste, who knows? It ain’t always personal, even though it feels like it is. It’s like some folks don’t like tomatoes, even though they’re good for ya. Just ain’t their cup of tea.

Talk to him, child. But don’t go accusin’ and yellin’. Sit him down, maybe after a nice supper, and just ask him what’s goin’ on. Say it plain and simple, like, “Honey, I’ve been wonderin’ why you don’t… you know… go down on me.” See what he says. Maybe he’s got a reason you ain’t thought of.
Listen to him when he’s talkin’. Don’t interrupt and don’t get all defensive. Just hear him out. Maybe he’s shy, maybe he’s uncomfortable, maybe he just plain don’t like it. You gotta understand where he’s comin’ from before you can fix things.
Compromise, maybe? Relationships are all about give and take. Maybe he’ll try it if you make it special, ya know? Like, set the mood, make it romantic. Or maybe you can find other things you both enjoy. There’s more to life than just one thing, after all.

But, and this is a big but, if he’s just plain ignoring your needs, that ain’t right. You deserve to be happy and satisfied, just like he does. If he ain’t willin’ to meet you halfway, then maybe he ain’t the right fella for you. I know it ain’t easy, but sometimes you gotta let go of a fish that’s too slippery to hold onto.

Now, don’t go thinkin’ you’re not good enough or that somethin’s wrong with you. That ain’t it at all. You’re a good woman, and you deserve to be with someone who appreciates you, body and soul. Don’t you forget that.

And one more thing, don’t be afraid to talk to your friends about it. Sometimes just gettin’ it off your chest can make you feel better. And who knows, maybe they’ve been through the same thing and can give you some good advice. Us women gotta stick together, ya know?

So, take a deep breath, child, and figure out what you need to do. It ain’t gonna be easy, but you’re strong and you can handle it. Just remember, you deserve to be happy. And if this fella ain’t makin’ you happy, then it might be time to find someone who will. That’s just plain common sense, ain’t it?

Lastly, sometimes, relationships just don’t work out. He might be prioritizing other things, like friends, hobbies, or even just ignoring you. If he is your last priority, you might need some space to think. If he is avoiding you and only spending time with you because he has no other options, that’s not fair to you. Maybe you both need some time apart, or you need to start making time for yourself and your own friends. It’s important to remember to take care of yourself and do things that make you happy.