Alright, so, a while back, I did something kinda nerve-wracking. I met up with my ex after, like, a really long time. We’re talking years here. I was a total mess leading up to it, not gonna lie. I mean, it’s normal to feel all weird about seeing someone you used to be with, right? I spent a good chunk of time just sitting with my feelings, trying to figure out why I was so anxious. Was it regret? Curiosity? Just plain old awkwardness? Probably a mix of all three, to be honest.
Before the big day, I did a lot of thinking. I went over our whole relationship in my head, like flipping through an old photo album. Why did we break up? What did I learn from the whole thing? It was kinda painful, but it helped me see things more clearly. And honestly, it helped me loosen the grip that relationship still kinda had on me.
When the day finally came, I decided to keep it cool. No big romantic gestures or anything. Just, “Hey, how’s it going?” We met up at a coffee shop and I try to keep things light. I made sure to ask a straightforward, non-personal question like: ” How’s life treating you?” to keep it simple and clean. And after we exchanged a couple of casual words, I asked him to meet up so we can reconnect and make the conversation longer.
- Initiate the Conversation: So, yeah, I started off with a simple “Hey, how’s life treating you?” It felt less awkward than diving into anything too deep right away.
- Keep It Light: I tried to make jokes and keep the vibe chill. We talked about work, what we’d been up to, you know, the usual stuff. No use bringing up old drama, especially since we hadn’t seen each other in ages.
- Be Respectful: Even though things didn’t work out between us, I wanted to show that I still respected him as a person. So, I listened when he talked and tried to be genuinely interested in what he had to say.
It wasn’t all smooth sailing, though. There were definitely some awkward silences. And there were moments when I could feel the past hanging in the air between us. I mean it’s not the time to air your grievances, especially in a coffee shop right? But overall, it was… okay. Better than okay, actually. It was nice to see that we could both be adults about it and just have a normal conversation.
Oh, and I definitely had an exit strategy. I told myself I’d only stay for an hour, tops. And I had a code word with my friend – if I texted her “pineapple,” she’d call me with a fake emergency. Luckily, I didn’t need to use it, but it was good to have a backup plan.
The Aftermath
So, yeah, that’s my story about meeting up with an ex. It wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be. It was actually kind of… healing? It helped me close a chapter in my life and move on. If you’re thinking about doing the same, I’d say go for it. Just remember to be yourself, be respectful, and, most importantly, have an exit strategy!
