Well, let me tell ya, this whole thing about boyfriends likin’ other women’s pictures, it’s a real head-scratcher, ain’t it? I mean, back in my day, we didn’t have all this fancy phone stuff. If a man looked at another woman, you’d just give him a good stare-down, maybe a pinch, and that was that. Nowadays, it’s all pictures and “likes” and whatnot.
Is it okay? I guess, maybe? I don’t rightly know. Some folks say it ain’t no big deal. They say, “Oh, he just likes the picture, not the woman.” Like he’s lookin’ at a purdy sunset or a bowl of fruit, not some gal posin’ all fancy-like. They say maybe he likes the hair, or the clothes, or the place where the picture was took. Maybe the gal used some fancy words underneath and he just liked the words, not the gal herself.
And you know, maybe that’s true. Maybe it ain’t nothin’ to worry about. Maybe he’s just lookin’ at the colors or somethin’. Men, they’re simple creatures sometimes. They see somethin’ shiny, they like it. Don’t mean they wanna run off with it.
But then again, there’s that little voice in your head, ain’t there? The one that says, “Hmm, why’s he lookin’ at her? Ain’t I good enough?” And that, my dear, that’s the jealousy talkin’. And that’s normal, I reckon. It’s natural to feel a little twinge when you see your fella lookin’ at another woman, even if it’s just a picture.
- Now, some folks say it’s okay to like a picture if it’s just a stranger. They say men just see it as “eye candy” and don’t think nothin’ more of it. Like lookin’ at a pretty flower, I guess. They look, they admire, and then they move on. No harm done.
- But if he’s startin’ to follow these women, or sendin’ them messages, well, that’s a different story altogether. That ain’t just lookin’ at a picture, that’s flirtin’, and that ain’t right. That’s like him sneakin’ around behind your back, and nobody wants that.
The best thing to do, I figure, is to talk to him. Just sit him down and say, “Look here, what’s with all this likin’ other women’s pictures? It makes me feel uncomfortable.” And then listen to what he has to say. If he gets all quiet and sheepish, well, that might be a bad sign. That’s what happened to one gal I heard about. She asked her fella, and he just clammed up. Turned out, he was up to no good. But if he’s open and honest, and he explains himself, well, maybe you can work it out. Maybe it really ain’t nothin’ to worry about.
What to do if it bothers you? Well, first off, don’t bottle it up. That’s never a good idea. Talk to your fella. Tell him how you feel. If he cares about you, he’ll listen. And maybe he’ll stop, or at least cut back. And if he don’t, well, then you gotta decide what’s more important to you.
Some say if he’s actin’ all single-like on social media, that’s a bad sign. Like he’s lookin’ for somethin’ else. And I reckon that’s true. If he’s hidin’ you away, not tellin’ the world he’s got a good woman, well, that ain’t right. A man should be proud to have you by his side, not pretendin’ he’s all alone.
And if you catch him lookin’ at those pictures, don’t just fly off the handle. Ask him about it. Be calm and reasonable, even if you’re boilin’ mad inside. Try to understand where he’s comin’ from. Maybe he’s just clueless. Maybe he don’t realize it bothers you. But if he keeps doin’ it, even after you’ve told him how you feel, well, then you gotta ask yourself if this is the kinda fella you wanna be with. Because a good man, a real man, he’ll put your feelings first.
It’s all about trust, ain’t it? If you trust him, then maybe a few likes ain’t gonna hurt nothin’. But if you don’t trust him, well, then them likes are just gonna make things worse. And trust, that’s somethin’ you gotta build, like a good strong fence. It takes time and effort, and if it gets broke, it ain’t always easy to fix.
So, is it okay for your boyfriend to like other women’s pictures? There ain’t no easy answer. It depends on him, it depends on you, and it depends on your relationship. But the most important thing is to talk about it. Don’t let it fester and grow into somethin’ bigger. Get it out in the open, and then you can figure out what to do next.
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