Alright, let’s talk about this “leading me on” business. You know, when a fella’s acting all sweet and charming, but you got this nagging feeling in your gut that somethin’ ain’t right. It’s like he’s dangling a carrot, but you never get to actually eat it.
So, how do you tell if he’s playin’ you? Well, first off, listen to your gut. That little voice inside, it usually knows what’s up. If things feel off, they probably are. Don’t go ignorin’ that feeling just ’cause he’s got a pretty smile.
- Does he lie? Even little white lies, they add up. If he can’t be straight with you about small stuff, how you gonna trust him with the big things? A man who lies ain’t worth your time, that’s for sure.
- Are all his exes “crazy”? Now, I ain’t sayin’ there ain’t some crazy folks out there, but if every single woman he’s ever been with is “crazy,” well, maybe the problem ain’t them. It might be him. Think about it.
And another thing, pay attention to what he does, not just what he says. Words are cheap, honey. Real cheap. He can tell you he loves you till the cows come home, but if he ain’t showin’ it, it don’t mean a thing. If he says he’s gonna call, does he call? If he says he’s gonna take you out, does he take you out? See what I’m sayin’?
This here is important: If his words don’t match his actions, that’s a big ol’ red flag. Don’t you go ignorin’ that now. You deserve a man who does what he says he’s gonna do. None of this wishy-washy, here-today-gone-tomorrow stuff.
Now, these “red flags” folks talk about, they ain’t always easy to spot. Sometimes they start out small, like he’s always a little late, or he forgets things you tell him. But they can get bigger and bigger, till you’re stuck in a mess you can’t get out of.
Some fellas, they like to control you. Tell you what to wear, who to talk to, where to go. That ain’t right. A good man, he respects you. He lets you be your own person. He don’t try to change you or boss you around.
And then there’s the “love bombing” type. At first, he’s all over you, showerin’ you with gifts and compliments. Makes you feel like you’re the only woman in the world. But then, just as quick, he pulls away, leavin’ you confused and hurt. That’s a game, honey. And you don’t wanna play it.
Emotional abuse, that’s a sneaky one. He might not hit you, but he can still hurt you with his words. Calling you names, putting you down, making you feel worthless. That ain’t love, no matter what he says. And physical abuse? Well, that’s a whole ‘nother level. If he ever lays a hand on you, you get out of there. Fast.
Some expert lady on the TV, she said if you see more than two of these red flags, you best be movin’ on. And she’s probably right. Don’t waste your time on a fella who ain’t gonna treat you right. There’s plenty of good men out there, you just gotta find one.
It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of a new relationship, especially when he’s sayin’ all the right things. But don’t let that blind you. Keep your eyes open, and pay attention to what’s really goin’ on. Don’t let him lead you on a wild goose chase that ends in heartbreak. You’re worth more than that, you hear?
So, if you’re askin’ yourself “is he leading me on?”, chances are, he probably is. Trust your gut, watch out for them red flags, and don’t be afraid to walk away if things don’t feel right. You deserve a man who loves you and respects you, not one who’s just playin’ games.
Tags: [Relationships, Red Flags, Dating, Love, Leading On, Emotional Abuse, Trust, Respect, Behavior, Advice]
