Well, let me tell ya, this whole “husbands best friend” thing, it’s kinda tricky, you know? Folks say your husband should be your best friend, but is that always how it works? I ain’t so sure.
Is Your Husband Really Your Best Friend?
Some smarty-pants folks, they talk about friends in different ways. They got these “Three C’s” – Constituents, Comrades, and Confidants. Sounds fancy, huh? Basically, it means there’s different types of folks you hang out with. Your husband, he might be a comrade, someone you do things with, or a confidant, someone you tell your secrets to. But a best friend? That’s a whole different story sometimes.
Now, them science folks, they say spending time with friends is real good for your head. Makes you happier than just hanging out with your husband all the time. Makes sense to me. You need different folks in your life, folks who see things different ways, folks who make you laugh in a different way than your husband does.
- It’s good to have different friends, not just your husband.
- Friends can make you happy in a way your husband might not.
Can Your Husband Be Your Best Friend? Sure, Maybe.
Look, I ain’t saying it’s bad if your husband is your best friend. Some folks, they’re all lovey-dovey and that’s just fine. They share everything, they do everything together. Good for them, I say. You know, “my husband is my everything,” they say. That’s them. But for most of us, it ain’t that simple. Marriage is hard work. It’s about love and respect and all that, but it’s also about figuring out how to live with another person day in and day out. And sometimes, you need a break from that person, even if you love ‘em to bits.
It ain’t always necessary or even possible for your husband to be your best friend. You gotta have your own friends, your own people to talk to. People you can complain to about your husband, even! Don’t get me wrong, loving your husband and being close is important, real important. But best friend? Maybe, maybe not.
The Trouble with Three-Person Friend Groups
Now, sometimes you get these three-person friend groups. Your husband, you, and another friend. That can be real nice, or it can be a real mess. It’s like having a pie, three folks tryin’ to get a piece, someone always gonna get less, someone gonna feel left out. Jealousy can creep in, feelings can get hurt. You gotta be careful with those situations.
When Friends Get Too Friendly…
And then there’s the other thing. What happens when your husband’s friend, or your friend, gets a little too friendly? Friendship can turn into flirtin’, and that ain’t good. You gotta set some rules, some boundaries. If your husband can have close friends, you can too. It’s gotta be fair, see? No double standards. You can’t be sayin’ he can do one thing but you can’t do the same.
Finding the Balance
So, what’s the answer to this whole “husbands best friend” thing? I reckon it’s about finding a balance. Love your husband, respect him, be close to him. But don’t forget your own friends, your own life. And don’t expect your husband to be everything to you, because nobody can be everything to anyone. That’s just common sense, ain’t it?
In the end, it’s all about what works for you and your husband. There ain’t no one-size-fits-all answer. Just try to be happy, try to be good to each other, and try to keep your friends close, cause you never know when you’re gonna need ‘em.
And that’s all I gotta say about that.
Tags: Marriage, Friendship, Relationships, Husband, Wife, Best Friend, Communication, Boundaries, Trust, Happiness
