Okay, so, I’ve been seeing this guy for about three years now. We’re living together, sharing bills, the whole nine yards. We talk about our future, kids, where we want to live, all that stuff. He keeps saying he wants to marry me, but there’s no ring on my finger yet. So, I started to dig into this, trying to figure out what’s going on.
First thing I did was trawl through a bunch of online forums and articles. I found out that a lot of guys hesitate because of some fear. It’s not even something they’re always aware of. Could be fear of commitment, fear of things changing, or whatever. That got me thinking about my guy. He’s pretty open, but maybe there’s something he’s not telling me.
Then, I started looking at the practical stuff. I mean, we’ve been together for a while, but is it long enough? Some people say you should date for at least 18 months before getting engaged. We’re way past that, so that’s not it. Then there’s the whole financial aspect. We’re both doing okay, but weddings are expensive! Maybe he’s worried about that? I also learned from one article that a few months is not a long time, it’s pretty rushed.
My Next Move
- Talking to Him: I figured the best way to get answers was to just talk to him about it. I didn’t want to pressure him, but I needed to understand where he’s at.
- Observing His Actions: I decided to pay more attention to how he acts around the topic of marriage. Does he get uncomfortable? Does he change the subject?
- Reflecting on Our Relationship: I took some time to think about our relationship as a whole. Are we really ready for marriage? Is there anything we need to work on first?
So, I sat him down one evening, and we had a long talk. I told him I loved him and wanted to spend my life with him, but I was confused about why he hadn’t proposed yet. He was a bit surprised, but he listened. He told me he definitely wants to marry me, but he wants it to be special. He’s been thinking about how to propose and saving up for a ring. He also mentioned that he wants us to be in a really good place financially before we take that step. However, one of the articles I read had said that some people get engaged without a traditional proposal, and that it can be a mutual decision that involves open communication. I did have an open communication with him, but we did not have a mutual decision to be engaged yet.
After our talk, I felt a lot better. I realized I had been overthinking things. He does want to marry me, he’s just taking his time to make it perfect. I’m still a little impatient, but I understand where he’s coming from. And honestly, it’s kind of sweet that he’s putting so much thought into it.
I guess the lesson here is that communication is key. If you’re wondering why your man hasn’t proposed yet, don’t jump to conclusions. Talk to him about it. You might be surprised by what you find out.
It’s funny, I also read that it takes most people about six months or so to make a decision. I guess my guy is just taking a little longer than most. But hey, good things come to those who wait, right? I’m just going to enjoy our time together and trust that when the time is right, he’ll pop the question.
