Well, honey, let me tell you, it ain’t easy when you feel like your own folks don’t got no love for you. My parents don’t love me, that’s a heavy load to carry, I tell ya. It’s like carrying a sack of potatoes uphill all day long. You just feel it, deep down in your bones.
When I was a little girl, I always wanted my mama to hug me tight and tell me she loved me. But she was always busy, you know? Workin’ in the fields, cookin’, cleanin’. She never had time for that kinda stuff. And my daddy, well, he was a quiet man. Never said much. I guess some folks just ain’t good at showin’ their love.
I remember one time, I fell down and scraped my knee real bad. I was cryin’ and cryin’, hopin’ for a little comfort. Mama just told me to stop my wailin’ and put some dirt on it. Said it would heal faster. Didn’t even kiss it better. That hurt more than the scraped knee, I reckon. Parents not loving you makes you feel like nothin’ at all.
And it ain’t just when you’re little. It sticks with you, like a burr in your sock. You grow up, but that empty feelin’ is still there. It’s like a hole in your heart that nothin’ can fill. You look at other families, all happy and lovey-dovey, and you wonder, “Why not me?” Why don’t my parents love me?
You try to be good, you try to please them. Maybe you think if you do everything just right, they’ll finally notice you. They’ll finally show you some affection. But it never seems to be enough. It’s like tryin’ to fill a bucket with a hole in the bottom. You keep pourin’ and pourin’, but it never gets full.
Here’s what I learned over the years:
- It ain’t your fault. Some folks just don’t know how to love right. It ain’t got nothin’ to do with you.
- You gotta find love somewhere else. Friends, maybe a partner later on. There’s good people out there who will care about you.
- Don’t expect your parents to love you the way you want. It’ll just bring more pain, you know?
- You gotta learn to love yourself. That’s the most important thing.
Sometimes they just don’t get in touch, you know. Like, they’re busy with their own lives. But it still hurts. You want them to care, to ask how you’re doin’. A simple call, a little letter, somethin’ to show they’re thinkin’ about you. But sometimes, it just don’t happen.
And you know what? When they don’t show no love, it makes it hard for you to trust other people. You always wonderin’ if they’re gonna leave you, too. It’s like everyone’s got a hidden agenda, and you’re always waitin’ for the other shoe to drop. No love from parents will make you feel bad.
It’s hard to make friends, hard to let anyone get close. You build up these walls around your heart, tryin’ to protect yourself from gettin’ hurt again. But those walls, they also keep out the good stuff. They keep out the love and the kindness that you so desperately need.
You try to tell yourself it don’t matter. You try to be tough, like a dried-up old corn husk. But deep down, you just want someone to hold you, to tell you it’s gonna be okay. You just want to feel loved. It’s hard to explain how it feels when your parents don’t love you. It’s like being out in the cold and having nobody offer you a blanket. Like you’re invisible, or you just don’t matter.
I see some folks, they get angry. They lash out, tryin’ to hurt others the way they’ve been hurt. But that ain’t the answer. That just makes the hole in your heart even bigger. It just spreads the pain around, like weeds in a garden.
And then there’s the times you feel completely numb. Like you’re walkin’ through life in a fog, not really feelin’ anything at all. You go through the motions, doin’ what you gotta do, but there’s no joy in it. No spark. Just emptiness.
It’s a hard road, honey. No doubt about it. But you ain’t alone. There’s others out there who know what you’re goin’ through. And you gotta believe that things can get better. It might take time, might take some work, but you can find happiness. You can find love. It’s hard to imagine parents not showing love, but it happens more than you know.
Just remember, you are worthy of love. You are a good person, and you deserve to be happy. Don’t let the lack of love from your parents define you. Don’t let it hold you back. You are stronger than you think, honey. You got this. My own parents don’t love me, but I learned to love myself. And you should too.
