Alright, let’s talk about this “ex help” thing, whatever that means. You young folks got all these fancy words, back in my day we just said “it’s over” and moved on. But I guess times are different now, huh?
So, this ex… boy, girl, whatever, they done messed with your head, right? Left you feelin’ like a stepped-on biscuit. Don’t you go feelin’ sorry for yourself now. Ain’t nothin’ gonna get better if you just sit there and mope.
First thing you gotta do is get your mind right. You hear me? Stop thinkin’ ’bout them all the time. They ain’t worth it. I know it’s hard, like tryin’ to herd chickens in a windstorm, but you gotta try.
- Stop lookin’ at their pictures. Tuck ’em away in a box, burn ’em, I don’t care. Just get them outta your sight.
- Don’t be stalkin’ them on that Face-Space or whatever you kids call it. That ain’t gonna help nobody, especially not you.
- And for the love of Pete, don’t be callin’ or textin’ them! You said it’s over, then act like it. Got no backbone, these youngsters.
Now, some folks say you gotta “heal.” Sounds like a bunch of hogwash to me, but I guess it means gettin’ back to your old self. Remember what you used to like doin’ before you met that no-good so-and-so? Well, go do it! You liked to bake? Go bake a cake. You liked to fish? Go catch a fish. Just keep yourself busy, that’s the key.
And don’t go thinkin’ you gotta be friends with them right away. That’s like tryin’ to put a saddle on a pig – ain’t gonna work. You need space, they need space. Maybe someday down the road, when you both got your heads screwed on straight, you can be friendly. But for now, keep your distance. Like that fella said, be polite if you see ’em, but don’t go lookin’ for ’em. Pretend they’re just another face in the crowd, like that old fella who sells watermelons by the road. You see him, you might nod, but you don’t go runnin’ over for a chat.
And listen here, this is important: don’t you go blamin’ yourself for everything. Relationships are like a two-horse wagon. Sometimes, one horse just ain’t pullin’ its weight, or maybe they’re just headed in different directions. It ain’t always your fault. You did your best, and if it wasn’t enough, well, that’s their problem, not yours.
Another thing – don’t be afraid to lean on your friends and family. They’re there for you, even if they don’t always know what to say. Sometimes, just havin’ someone to sit with, someone to listen to you ramble on, is all you need. It’s like havin’ a good quilt on a cold night, it just makes you feel a little bit warmer inside.
And for goodness sake, take care of yourself! Eat good food, get some sunshine, go for a walk. Don’t let yourself go just because some fool decided they didn’t want to be with you anymore. You’re worth more than that. You are strong like an old oak tree, you can weather this storm.
Getting over someone is like planting a garden. First, you gotta pull out all the weeds, all the bad memories and hurt feelings. Then you gotta till the soil, get yourself ready for something new. And finally, you gotta plant some new seeds, new hopes and dreams. It takes time, and it takes effort, but eventually, something beautiful will grow. Maybe even better than what you had before.
So, there you have it. My two cents on this “ex help” thing. It ain’t rocket science, it’s just common sense. You’re strong, you’re capable, and you’ll get through this. Just remember what I told you: get your mind right, keep yourself busy, lean on your loved ones, and take care of yourself. And most important, don’t look back. The future is where you need to be looking, like driving a car you always gotta look forward or you gonna end up in a ditch.
Now go on, get out there and live your life. Don’t let nobody hold you back. And if you see that ex of yours, just give ’em a nod and keep on walkin’. You got better things to do.
