Alright, so listen up, you young’uns. I’m gonna tell ya somethin’ about this… this “boyfriend wont go down on me” thing. Heard some gals talkin’ ’bout it down at the market, and it got me thinkin’. Now, I ain’t no expert, but I’ve seen a thing or two in my time.
First off, you gotta figure out why the heck he ain’t doin’ it. Is he one of them fellas who thinks it’s… what’s the word… “gross”? Lord have mercy, some men are just plain silly. Or maybe he just don’t know how. Some boys are raised sheltered, you know? Never learned the birds and the bees properly. Could be he’s scared to ask, scared to look foolish. You gotta talk to him, girl. Plain and simple. Sit him down and say, “Look here, mister, what’s the deal?” Don’t beat around the bush, ain’t nobody got time for that.
- Maybe he’s just clueless.
- Maybe he thinks it’s dirty.
- Maybe he’s scared.
Now, there’s another thing. Some fellas, they got this idea in their head that… well, that your… you know… that down there ain’t… pleasant. And that’s just hogwash. Every woman is made different, made special. If he’s got a problem with it, that’s HIS problem, not yours. Don’t you go lettin’ no man make you feel bad about yourself.
And listen here, this is important. If he’s treatin’ you like you don’t deserve it, or like his pleasure is more important than yours, then honey, you got a bigger problem than just him not goin’ down. You deserve to be happy, you deserve to feel good. Don’t let no man tell you otherwise. If he ain’t treatin’ you right, maybe it’s time to kick him to the curb. Plenty of fish in the sea, as they say, even if some of them are kinda smelly.
I heard tell of some gals sayin’ their bodies are “rejectin’” their man. Now, I don’t know about all that fancy talk. But your body, it’s smart. It knows things. If you’re feelin’ uneasy, if somethin’ feels off, pay attention. Maybe it ain’t just about him not goin’ down. Maybe it’s a sign that somethin’ ain’t right in the whole shebang. Your heart and your mind, they work together, you know? Listen to ‘em.
Some young’uns these days, they date for a year and this kinda stuff happens. One gal I heard about said her fella was all about it at first and then stopped. Then he did it a couple times when she was carryin’ a baby, but then quit again after the baby was born. Now, that ain’t right. Things change, sure, but a man should still care about your needs. If he was all over you at the beginning and now he ain’t even lookin’ your way, somethin’s up. You gotta talk to him, and if talkin’ don’t work, well then…
You gotta do what’s best for you. Don’t settle for someone who don’t appreciate you. You’re worth more than that. You hear me? You are worth more. Don’t let no man, or nobody for that matter, make you feel small or unwanted. Stand up tall, speak your mind, and if he ain’t listenin’, then maybe it’s time to find someone who will.
And one more thing. If he “refuses” like some of them gals were sayin’… well, that ain’t a partnership, that’s a dictatorship! Nobody should be refusin’ you nothin’ in a relationship that’s supposed to be about lovin’ and carin’. This ain’t about orders, it’s about tenderness. So you remember that.
Now, I gotta go make some supper. But you think on what I said. You’re a strong woman, don’t you forget it. You deserve to be happy, and you deserve a man who wants to make you happy, in every way. And if he ain’t doin’ that, well then, maybe it’s time to find someone who will.
Tags: [Relationship Advice, Intimacy, Boyfriend Issues, Oral Sex, Communication, Self-Worth, Partner Problems, Healthy Relationships, Female Sexuality]
