Okay, so I’ve got something a bit awkward to talk about, but hey, it’s real life, right? I’ve been messing around trying to figure out why I can’t seem to, you know, finish when I’m getting head. It’s frustrating as hell, and I know I’m not the only one dealing with this.
I started noticing this a while back. Like, things would be going great, but then… nothing. It was like hitting a wall. I’d keep going, hoping it would just click, but nope. I did have been trying, hoping it would be better, but it did not.
At first, I thought it was just me. Maybe I was too in my head, overthinking it. So, I tried to relax more. I’d put on some music, dim the lights, you know, set the mood. I even tried different positions, thinking maybe that was it. I even tried to imagine some hot scenes.
- Tried relaxing, focusing on the sensations.
- Tried different techniques, speeds, pressures.
- Tried communicating more with my partner, guiding them.
Then I started wondering if it was my partner. Maybe they just weren’t doing it right? I mean, everyone’s got their own style. So, I tried to, uh, guide them a bit. You know, show them what I liked, what felt good. But still, no dice.
Honestly, it got to the point where I started avoiding it altogether. Like, what’s the point if it’s just going to end in frustration, right? But that’s not really fair to either of us.
Diving Deeper into the Issue
So, I started doing some digging, trying to figure out what the hell was going on. I read some articles, watched some videos, even talked to a few buddies about it. And you know what? Turns out, it’s not that uncommon.
I realized I was putting way too much pressure on myself to perform. Like, I was so focused on getting there that I wasn’t actually enjoying the ride. And that’s a big part of it, right? It’s supposed to be fun, pleasurable, not some kind of mission to accomplish. One of my friends told me that it is important to focus on feeling.
I also realized that communication is key. Like, really talking to your partner about what you like, what you don’t like, what feels good, what doesn’t. It’s a two-way street, you know? You both gotta be on the same page to really get the engine running. I found that if I could tell my thought to my partner, things would be better.
And lastly, I realized that sometimes, it’s just not gonna happen. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re broken or your partner’s doing something wrong. It just means your body’s not feeling it at that moment. And that’s perfectly fine. I am still trying now.
So, yeah, that’s where I’m at now. Still figuring things out, still experimenting, still trying to just enjoy the moment without getting hung up on the destination. It’s a journey, right? And I’m learning to be okay with that. After all, I think it is a good memory for me.
