Okay, so, things with my husband haven’t been great lately. It feels like he just doesn’t like me anymore. And honestly, it’s been eating me up inside. I finally decided I had to do something about it, so here’s what I did.
First, I tried to figure out what was going on. Was it something I did? Was he just stressed? Or, was it worse than that? I spent days just thinking and watching him, trying to pick up on any clues. I noticed he was on his phone a lot, more than usual, and he seemed, I don’t know, distant. Like he was a million miles away even when we were in the same room.
Then, I tried talking to him. Multiple times. But it was like talking to a brick wall. He’d just brush me off or say he was tired. It was so frustrating! I even tried to make the best dinner and watch a match with him, but he just mumbled something.
After that, I started to look up stuff online. I read a bunch of articles, you know, the usual “relationship advice” stuff. Some of it was helpful, some of it was just… well, not for my situation. It looks like 68% of divorced couples said the “final straw” and “emotional intimacy” something, I can not agree more. One article talked about how the small things, like eye rolls and the silent treatment, can be bigger deals than you think. That really hit home for me. We had so many silent moments I thought I might be going mad!
I decided to give him some space. Maybe he just needed time to sort things out in his head, whatever those things were. So, I backed off a bit. I still did my usual stuff around the house, made sure he had clean clothes and food, but I stopped trying to force conversations or, you know, be all lovey-dovey.
After a few days of the silent treatment from both sides, I started to see a tiny change. He started to put his phone down a little more. He even helped me clear the table one night without me asking. It was small, but it was something. It is really a painful thing when the one you love doesn’t show the love back, or even close to. I even think if I do everything in this relationship, can it really work?
Then, one evening, he finally talked. He said he’d been feeling overwhelmed with work and that he knew he hadn’t been a great husband lately. He even apologized. It wasn’t a magical fix, but it was a start. We talked for hours that night, about everything and nothing.
Things aren’t perfect now, but they’re better. We still have a lot to work on, but at least we’re talking now. And I’m hopeful. Maybe, just maybe, we can get back to where we used to be. And maybe my online reading is really useful this time, I really learn how to identify those signs that he thinks he does nothing wrong. I feel like we took a big step in the right direction. I still don’t really know what the future holds, but I’m willing to see where this road takes us. At least I know I tried my best. And sometimes, that’s all you can do, right?
