Okay, so, I’ve been feeling a bit weird about my boyfriend lately. He’s great and all, but some things just don’t add up. I started wondering, could he be… you know… gay? It’s been bugging me, so I decided to do a little digging.
First off, I looked up some stuff online. I typed in “how to know if my boyfriend is gay” into the search bar. There were tons of articles and quizzes, but most of them were pretty useless. “Does he like show tunes?” and “Does he care about fashion?” Come on, those are stereotypes! Still, I read a few, just to see what they said. They mostly talked about paying attention to who he’s attracted to, which, duh, that’s the obvious part. They also mentioned about asking basic questions. But these all sounds not very practical.
Then I thought, maybe I should talk to someone about this. I have a couple of friends who are gay, so I texted one of them, Mark. I just asked him generally about how he knew he was gay. He said it was different for everyone, but for him, it was just a feeling he had, and he started to realize he was more interested in guys than girls. That didn’t really help me much with my boyfriend, but it was interesting to hear his story.
Next, I tried to observe my boyfriend more closely. I mean, I’m always around him, but I tried to pay more attention to how he acted around other guys. Did he seem overly friendly? Did he check anyone out? To be honest, I didn’t really notice anything out of the ordinary. He acted the same as always, just hanging out, joking around.
After that, I even tried one of those silly online quizzes, “Am I Gay?” It was a bunch of multiple-choice questions about preferences and stuff. Of course, it said there’s no reliable “Am I Gay” test. It’s all about personal feelings and attractions. No big surprise there.
Finally, I decided the best way to find out was just to talk to him. I mean, we’re in a relationship, we should be able to talk about anything, right? So, one night, when we were just chilling on the couch, I brought it up. I told him I’d been feeling a bit insecure and had some questions.
He was really cool about it. He listened, and then he told me straight up that he’s not gay. He said he loves me and he’s only attracted to women. He even joked about how bad he is at picking out throw pillows, saying that’s proof he’s not gay.
What I Learned
- Stereotypes are dumb: Liking musicals or fashion doesn’t make a guy gay.
- Online quizzes are a joke: There’s no test to determine someone’s sexuality.
- Communication is key: The best way to know something is to ask directly.
So, yeah, it turned out my boyfriend isn’t gay. I feel a bit silly for even worrying about it, but I guess it’s normal to have doubts sometimes. The important thing is that we talked about it, and now I feel much better. Case closed, I guess!
