My man, he always say, my girlfriend, she just talks too much. Never a quiet moment, that one. Always yapping about something. I tell him, you think she talks too much? Well, maybe she got a lot to say! But, he just shakes his head. Says it wears him out. So, I try to find a way to help him, you know?
What to Do When She Talks Too Much?
First thing, I told him, you gotta listen. Not just stand there like a bump on a log. Really listen. Maybe she’s telling you something important, you know? Could be about her day, her feelings, what she had to eat. They say it’s called “active listening”, just means listen good, I think.
- Pay attention.
- Look at her when she talks.
- Nod your head so she knows you’re listening.
But sometimes, even I gotta admit, it’s just too much. Words, words, words, coming out like water from a busted pipe. So, what do you do then? My boy, he don’t wanna hurt her feelings, says she’s a good girl, just, well, a talker. I told him, there’s ways to handle it, just gotta be smart about it.
She’s Got a Lot to Say
Now, I remember when I was a young’un. Always talking. Didn’t matter to who, the chickens, the fence post, anyone who’d listen. Maybe she’s like that, your girlfriend. Just gotta get it all out. Maybe you should ask her to talk to you. If she is your girlfriend, she will talk to you. So, my girlfriend talks too much, maybe she need someone to talk to.
Maybe try to do some things that don’t need much talking, you know? Go on a picnic. Hard to talk with your mouth full of potato salad. Or watch a movie, those are quiet. I remember the old picture shows, they were pretty quiet.
- Go for a walk in the woods.
- Work on a puzzle together.
- Just sit on the porch and watch the sunset.
Talking It Out
But, sometimes you gotta be straight, you know? Not mean, but straight. Tell her, “Honey, I love you, but sometimes my ears need a rest.” Say it with a smile, though. Don’t want her thinking you don’t like her, just ’cause she likes to talk. Maybe she don’t even realize she’s doing it, you know? People don’t always realize the things they do.
They say, communication is important. That’s a big word for just talking and listening. And it goes both ways. She talks, you listen. You talk, she listens. That’s how it’s supposed to work, I reckon. Maybe you can tell her to ask you a question. Then, you can answer her question. Maybe you can talk about your day with her. If she likes to talk, she might like you to talk as well.
He said she talks about work, she talks about her friends, she talks about, I don’t know, everything! I told him, well, maybe that’s just her way. Some folks are like that. They got a lot going on in their heads, and it just kinda spills out. But then he said, how about talking too much at work? I told him, it’s same as at home.
Find a Nice Way to Say It
You could try one of them tactics. That’s another one of them big words. Just means a way of doing things. You can try to change the topic when she’s going on and on. Like, if she’s talking about her friend’s new shoes, you could say, “Oh, speaking of shoes, did you see those new boots down at the store?” Might get her going on something else, and give your ears a break.
Or, you could try telling her you need a little quiet time. Say something like, “Honey, I need to rest my brain for a bit. How about we just sit quietly for a while?” Maybe she’ll understand. If not, well, there’s always earplugs, I guess. But that’s a last resort, you know? Don’t want to hurt her feelings. Just be kind and tell her you want to be quiet, I think. Don’t just say “You talk too much“. That will hurt her feeling.
- Try to be nice about it.
- Don’t yell or get mad.
- Just be patient, I guess.
Just Love Her Anyway
It ain’t the end of the world, you know, having a girlfriend who talks a lot. There are worse things. Could be she’s a good cook, or keeps a clean house. Could be she makes you laugh, or always remembers your birthday. She’s probably a good person even if my girlfriend talks too much. Gotta look at the good things, I always say.
So, my advice to my boy, and to anyone else out there with a talkative girlfriend, is this: be patient, be kind, and try to listen. And if all else fails, well, just love her anyway. That’s what I always say. That’s what matters most, ain’t it? Loving someone, even if they do talk your ear off sometimes. Besides, a little quiet never hurt anyone. Maybe you’ll learn to enjoy it.
