Well, let me tell ya somethin’ about this “still a mistress” thing. It ain’t a pretty picture, that’s for sure. It’s like a tangled-up ball of yarn, only instead of yarn, it’s people’s hearts and lives all messed up.
What’s this “mistress” business anyway? It’s when some fella, usually already hitched to someone else, goes and gets himself another woman on the side. And that other woman, well, she’s the mistress. She ain’t the wife, she ain’t the main squeeze, she’s just…extra. Like a spare tire you only use when the good one goes flat.
Now, some folks might glamorize it, make it sound all fancy and exciting. But lemme tell ya, it ain’t no picnic. It’s a whole lotta sneaking around, a whole lotta lying, and a whole lotta heartache. You’re always second best, always waiting in the shadows. It’s like eatin’ crumbs when you’re starvin’ for a whole loaf of bread.
- First off, there’s the sneakin’ around. You can’t just go out in public like a normal couple. You gotta hide, meet in secret, whisper on the phone. It’s like bein’ a criminal, always lookin’ over your shoulder, afraid of gettin’ caught. And trust me, gettin’ caught ain’t pretty. There’ll be yellin’, cryin’, maybe even some things gettin’ thrown around.
- Then there’s the lyin’. You gotta lie to your friends, lie to your family, and most of all, you gotta lie to yourself. You gotta pretend like it’s okay, pretend like you’re happy, pretend like it ain’t eatin’ you up inside. But lies, well, they got a way of catchin’ up to ya. They weigh ya down like a sack of potatoes.
- And the heartache…oh, the heartache. It’s a constant companion. You’re always wonderin’ if he’s with his wife, always wonderin’ if he really loves you, always wonderin’ when it’s all gonna fall apart. It’s like havin’ a little bird pecking at your heart, day in and day out.
Some folks say love is respect, admiration for your partner and all that jazz. And they say it’s about devotion, caring for each other and stuff. But in these love triangles, it’s like, respect, admiration, devotion, where’s that at? It’s hard to trust or respect someone who’s got their attention split between you and someone else.
A love triangle, that’s what they call it, fancy name. It’s when three people are all tangled up in a mess of feelings. One person, usually that man, is torn between two others. You got the wife and the other woman. And believe you me, it ain’t no fun being the “other woman”. It ain’t no fairytale. More like a horror story.
Now you might ask, why would a woman get mixed up with a married man? Well, sometimes she don’t know he’s married at first. Sometimes she’s lonely and he sweet-talks her. Sometimes she thinks she can change him, make him leave his wife. But honey, let me tell ya, that rarely happens. A married man is a married man, and he’s usually gonna stay that way.
And even if he does leave his wife for you, well, you always gotta wonder if he’ll do the same thing to you someday. It’s like buildin’ a house on sand, never really sure if it’s gonna stand the test of time.
So, what’s a woman to do if she finds herself in this “mistress” situation? Well, the first thing is to take a good long look in the mirror. Ask yourself if this is really what you want, if this is really the life you envisioned for yourself. Are you happy with the crumbs or do you want the whole loaf?
Then, you gotta get some backbone. You gotta stand up for yourself and demand better. You deserve to be someone’s first choice, not their second-best option. You deserve respect, you deserve honesty, and you deserve a love that’s out in the open, not hidden in the shadows.
Maybe you gotta walk away, even if it hurts. It might be the hardest thing you ever do, but it might also be the best thing. Because staying in a “mistress” situation is like stayin’ in a burning building. You might think you can handle the heat, but eventually, it’s gonna consume you.
And to those men out there who think it’s okay to have a wife and a mistress, well, let me tell you somethin’. You ain’t a king with two queens. You’re just a fella who can’t keep his promises and you’re causing a whole lotta pain.
Love ain’t supposed to be a secret, it ain’t supposed to be a competition. It’s supposed to be honest, it’s supposed to be respectful, and it’s supposed to be about two people, not three. So, if you find yourself in a love triangle, get yourself out of it. Find someone who wants all of you, not just a piece.
And remember, you’re worth more than being someone’s “sometimes”. You are a human who has needs and feelings that matter. Don’t let no man treat you like you’re less. You hear me?
