Oh, honey, listen up. This thing about hatin’ your boyfriend’s friends, it’s a mess, ain’t it? You got your fella, and then you got these other folks hangin’ around. And sometimes, somethin’ just don’t sit right.
Now, I ain’t sayin’ your man’s gotta ditch his buddies. Folks need their people. But if these fellas are makin’ you feel bad, somethin’s gotta change. See, you’re important too. Your feelin’s matter, don’t forget that.
Maybe these friends of his, they act wild. Maybe they say things that ain’t right. Or maybe, just maybe, they ain’t treatin’ you the way a lady should be treated. You know what’s right and wrong in your heart. Trust it.
You gotta talk to your man. Yeah, I know it ain’t easy. But sittin’ on it like a hen on a cold egg won’t hatch nothin’. Tell him straight, “Honey, your friends, they make me uncomfortable.” Simple and plain. No fussin’ or yellin’. Just the truth.
And if he cares, he’ll listen. He might not understand right off, men ain’t always the sharpest tools in the shed when it comes to feelings. But if he’s a good fella, he’ll try. He’ll try to see it from your side.
- Maybe he can talk to his friends. Tell ’em to mind their manners.
- Maybe he can spend less time with ’em, more time with you.
- Maybe, just maybe, he’ll start to see what you see.
But listen here, girl, don’t you go blamin’ yourself. It ain’t your fault if his friends ain’t good folks. You ain’t gotta be friends with ’em just ’cause he is. You gotta look out for yourself, for your own peace of mind.
Now, if your fella gets mad, starts yellin’ and carryin’ on, that’s a red flag, bigger than a barn door. A man who don’t respect your feelings ain’t worth your time, no matter how handsome he is or how much he makes you laugh.
And if these friends, if they’ve done somethin’ really bad, somethin’ that made you feel scared or unsafe, don’t you keep it quiet. Tell someone you trust. Don’t let nobody get away with hurtin’ you.
Love ain’t supposed to be a burden. It ain’t supposed to make you miserable. If his friends are causin’ you this much grief, somethin’ needs fixin’. Talk to your man. See if he’s willin’ to work it out. But remember, your happiness comes first. Don’t you forget that, honey.
Life’s too short to be dealin’ with folks who bring you down. You deserve to be with a man who makes you feel loved and respected, and friends who do the same. Don’t settle for nothin’ less.
Tags: relationship, friends, boyfriend, communication, feelings
