Oh, my dear, listen up now. You know, when it comes to love and all that, it’s not always as simple as we think. I know some of you might be scratchin’ your heads, wonderin’, “What do I do when I find out my man’s got a bit of a taste for both sides?” Well, I got a thing or two to share, and I’ll tell you, it ain’t no big surprise for some folks, especially if they’ve been feelin’ it for a while.
Now, let me tell ya, if your boyfriend comes up to ya one day and says, “I like men too,” don’t go actin’ all shocked like it’s the end of the world. It might not be somethin’ new for him. Some folks, they been feelin’ the way they do all their lives, and they just take a while to open up about it. My neighbor’s son, he’s been like that since high school, always had a soft spot for both the gals and the guys, but he didn’t say a word ’bout it till he was out of college.
Don’t go thinkin’ it means your relationship’s ruined. If he’s tellin’ ya this, it could be a good sign. He’s trustin’ ya enough to be honest, and that’s important, even if it’s a little uncomfortable at first. I reckon it’s better to know what you’re dealin’ with than to be kept in the dark. That way, you won’t end up wonderin’ why he’s lookin’ at other fellas all funny-like when you’re around.
But now, don’t get it twisted. Just ‘cause he likes men too, don’t mean he don’t love you. Some folks think that if their man is into other guys, it means they’re not good enough. That ain’t true. There’s lots of reasons why someone might be into both men and women, and it don’t always have to do with not bein’ satisfied. You’ve just gotta figure out where you stand in all this and make sure y’all talk about it clear as day.
Maybe you feel like you can handle it, maybe not. Some women, they don’t mind their man foolin’ around with other fellas, long as they stay true to each other in other ways. Other women, they can’t stand the thought of it, and that’s fine too. Everyone’s different, and you gotta find what works best for you both. Ain’t no shame in either choice.
One thing I’ll say, though, is communication’s key. You gotta talk. Don’t just brush it under the rug. You might be feelin’ all sorts of things, confused, upset, or even curious. Ain’t nothing wrong with askin’ him more about it, ‘cause if you don’t ask, you’ll never know what’s goin’ on in his heart.
What if you’re not sure how you feel about him being bi? That’s a fair question. You could try seein’ how you react when y’all talk about other folks, men and women both. See how he responds to the idea of others. That might help ya figure out if he’s truly bi or if he’s just tryin’ to see where the waters are, so to speak. It’s all about understanding each other, and making sure you both feel loved and respected.
Now, if he says he wants to bring other men into the relationship, that’s a big ol’ kettle of fish. Some folks can handle it, and some just can’t. You’ve gotta be clear with him. Ain’t no harm in sayin’, “This is too much for me.” If he really loves ya, he’ll understand that. And if he don’t? Well, then you know where you stand, don’t ya?
Some folks might think this sort of thing is just a phase, or that it’s a messin’ around kind of deal. But for others, it’s who they are, and you can’t change that. So, you’ve got to ask yourself if you’re ready for this kind of relationship, or if it’s somethin’ you just can’t handle.
At the end of the day, love is love, and how you choose to share it is up to you. Ain’t nobody else’s business, but yours. So, whatever decision you make, I just hope you find peace with it, whether it’s with him, or without him.
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